Mom, Can I Move Back in With You?
A Survival Guide for Parents of Twentysomethings
(Tarcher/Putnam, May 2004)
From interviews, focus groups, and their own personal experience, Gordon and Shaffer concluded that the characteristics of adulthood include: empathy, personal responsibility, independence, financial responsibility, appropriate boundaries, respectful interdependence, mature relationships, and cultural competence.
In their book, Gordon and Shaffer guide you as a parent to help your child achieve these goals and to be involved without being over- involved. With savvy advice, humor, and many real-life stories from twentysomethings and parents who've been there, Mom, Can I Move Back in With You? explores the most common problems of parenting.
"My Ophelia is a twentysomething now. This book worked for me. Many of the issues that I thought were just our issues turned out to be universal ones. This book is educational in the best sense of the word. It helps us act more effectively and adaptively in our family environments. I recommend it highly."
Mary Pipher, author of RevivingOphelia and Letters to a Young Therapist
"The quarterlife crisis is an adjustment not only for twentysomethings, but also for their parents. Gordon and Shaffer skillfully guide parents through what is often a tough transition for the entire family."
Abby Wilner, coauthor of Quarterlife Crisis: The Unique Challenges of Life In Your Twenties